Just how can you discover who you are in order to be happy? You wake up and as you make your first step out of bed you sigh heavily, that’s an indication that you aren’t looking forward to the day ahead. The heaviness in you has already worn you out.
You might be tired of that routine job or your daily routine activities and have been longing for a change for a while, but you aren’t sure where to start…It all starts with you.
What you need to do
1. Look at yourself and be thankful for who you are
People cannot be the same. We are all different in our own special way. Learn to look at yourself and appreciate the far that you have come and all that you have achieved. The fact that you are breathing is enough to be thankful for. It gives you another chance to better your life.
2. Never compare yourself with someone else
You might be looking at yourself and thinking, “If only I could have a better life like so and so, or travel all over the world whenever I want without having to worry about tomorrow or what my kids would eat”. Thinking that you aren’t privileged enough or that life has thrown at you too many lemons.
Why not make lemonade out of them? Take all that pain, past hurtful experiences and set aside all those feelings and thoughts of lack and not being like someone else. Look at what you have already achieved.
Loving you will greatly impact on the life you will live. You do not have to live the life of someone else in order to be happy. That one person that you might be envying might be having all the money, all the flashy things that you desire, but when they are all alone, they are in their worst state and unhappy with their lives.
I don’t intend to say that you should not want better. Before that better is achieved, you need to learn to appreciate the little that you already have. Out of that gratitude, bit by bit build your own empire. In the long run, you will finally achieve what you’ve always desired.
3. Treat yourself like the king or queen that you are
If you love eating out, going to the movies, sports, hiking, or whatever it is that makes you happy. Why not spare that weekend or that evening and go out and have some fun? You can go out alone, with your family or friends and create some happy moments.
Moments that will greatly boost your esteem whenever you are at your lowest point. That weekend out might be the turnaround that you need. You then recall that memory and use that particular moment to erase all the negativity that might be clouding your thoughts.
4. Let go of fear
Don’t fear to embrace who you are for fear of what others might think. It might be that you love or are good at doing something (sports, activities such as cooking, knitting etc.). This is one way of embracing yourself.
That sport that you love to play. Approach the coach and find out if you can secure a position in the school team? Stop worrying about what the bullies and others might think.
The fear that when you are yourself then the circle of friends that you have will slowly narrow down to nothing. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion but learn to be yourself and stop draining your strength out of fear of what those around you might think.
We all need friends and family by our side, but have you ever asked yourself if those that surround you are actually sincere about their friendship? One thing that I have experienced over the years is that a friend that will stand by you even when you are your true self is the one that will always hold your hand even in your worst moments.
Most of us have so many people that we consider friends, but ask yourself “Are they always there when I need them the most?”, or only 1 out of 20 show up? They don’t have to give you something but just lend you an ear or a shoulder to lean or cry on.
Stop worrying about that statement that was made that “YOU CANNOT DO IT”… because “YOU CAN”. Let go of the fear and set yourself free. Have the courage to be you. This will bring you inner peace.
Embracing who you will make you happier and change your life in ways that you never thought possible. Start appreciating yourself and all the abilities that you have and work towards creating a better you.