We’ve all heard of the assumption that if you want to be happy, you have to succeed first. Today, I tell you that this is never the case. You have to be happy first and then success comes next.
You might be wondering how you can live a happy life before you can succeed or achieve. Below are tips on how you can effectively bring happiness into your life.
1. Let go of your past and your past mistakes
Most of us tend to hold onto our past and our past mistakes for too long that we end up ripping off from ourselves the joy and happiness that we deserve. If there are amends to be made, make them. Learn from your past mistakes and use them as a stepping stone to be better.
Never let your past cloud your present, most especially if you are holding onto something that you can never go back in time and change. Just do what you can to make things right, but don’t let it disrupt your peace of mind.
2. Let go of all that wears you down
Whether it’s that business that wears you down, or not having enough money to purchase that piece of furniture or clothing that you have always passed by the shop and admired, but cannot have; remember that so long as you set your mind to it, you will have it someday but don’t beat yourself up.
Weariness comes with sadness and lack of strength which in turn affects your health.
Happiness, on the other hand, improves your health. Learn to let go of that which you cannot handle at that particular moment.
Don’t try to carry a luggage that is too heavy. Divide it into portions with a weight that you can handle. It might take a while, but in the end, you will carry everything. Handle one issue at a time and you will sort out everything without stressing too much.
3. Be yourself and stop thinking about what others think of you
People will always criticize, whether you are doing the right thing or not. Stop thinking of what others will think. They will not live your life for you.
You want to buy that dress, house, etc. that your friend or people are talking so much about? Are you buying it for them or is it really what you want. Most of us buy this or that because it’s trending but do you really need it?
If you are buying that house because you heard someone say that it looked nice, think again. Do something that will make you as an individual feel contented and not for others to see. It might not be expensive, but when you wear that shirt, you feel like you are worth a billion dollars and smile all the way to work. Go for it and stay happy.
4. Healthy competition
Competition is good but healthy competition is the best. Yes, you might want to get there fast and also stand out among other successful people. However, don’t start a business today and expect that in two months you will have opened several other branches and already became a millionaire.
Dwelling on always checking what others are doing and copying them won’t get you anywhere. Get creative and figure out how to bring out something unique and which is different from the rest.
Competing with others with no proper goal is frustrating, mostly when we don’t see any progress and yet the other person seems to be doing quite well. The frustration, in turn, brings us sadness and deprives us of any happiness.
5. Find out what makes you happy and put it into practice
Figure out the source of your happiness and try as much as you can to be happy. It doesn’t have to be something big, even if just by spending your afternoon by the beach, feeling the cool breeze brush against your face you feel happy and at peace, do it.
Go and spend a few hours of silence and calmness and come back feeling fresh and alive. Seize every opportunity that you get to be happy and do this as frequently as you can.
6. Make others happy
Your concern for others can also be your source of happiness. A friend of mine who is a doctor always tells me how treating people makes her happy. Just by serving others and seeing that she can help them get better makes her feel fulfilled and contented.
Another one told me of how good he feels when he notices that his family is happy. That alone makes him feel that he has achieved the greatest success in life. Through the patient and family’s happiness, they are able to derive some peace knowing that the people that they care so much about are fine.
A smile alone is enough to make someone happy. It’s not a must that you give out something, but every day, try and smile at someone, after a while, you will notice that you develop some sense of peace in your heart.
7. Stop believing that only material things will bring you happiness
Happiness doesn’t come from material things. You think that once you buy that television it will bring you happiness? You are wrong.
Some time back all I thought was that if I have a place of my own with everything I wanted then I will finally be happy. What I have realized over the years is that even after achieving all that, I wasn’t really happy.
Most of these items you rarely use and most of you understand what I mean. You have that sound bar or hi-fi system in your house that you rarely use. Yes, you couldn’t wait to purchase it, but it’s now just sitting in that living room.
Instead, you are looking into buying something else thinking that maybe this new additional item will bring you some happiness once it’s in your house. No, it won’t and you will fill up that house and keep changing your closet, but there will be no change.
Finally, just stop chasing happiness by buying material things. Buy them if you have to, but never expect that they will make you happy.